Listening is an essential skill worth every effort to learn and to master. Listening takes us out of our tendency toward self-absorption and self-protection. It opens us to the world around us and to the persons who matter most to us. When we listen, we learn, we grow, and we are nourished. Why do we often feel cut off when speaking to the people closest to us? What is it that keeps so many of us from really listening? Practicing psychotherapists, Donoghue and Siegel answer these questions and more in this thoughtful, witty, and helpful look at the reasons why people don’t listen. Filled with vivid examples that clearly demonstrate easy-to-learn listening techniques, Are You Really Listening? is a guide to the secrets and joys of listening and being listened to.
Paul J. Donoghue, S.M., PhD, is a psychologist in private practice in Stamford. Connecticut, and a consultant to corporations and organizations in the United States, Canada, and Europe. With Mary E. Siegel, PhD, he is the coauthor of three books, including the Sick and Tired of Feeling Sick and Tired: Living with Invisible Chronic Illness, now in its sixteenth printing and its second edition. Donoghue and Siegel are the authors of more than fifty magazine and journal articles on issues related to chronic illness, communication skills, and family dynamics. They have appeared on more than one hundred radio shows across the country and in Great Britain and on many television shows including The Today Show, Good Day New York, and a special on CNBC.
Mary E. Siegel, PhD, is a psychologist in private practice in Stamford Connecticut. She is coauthor, with Paul J. Donoghue, of several best-selling books and more than fifty magazine and journal articles on issues related to chronic illness, communication skills, and family dynamics. Donoghue and Siegel are also consultants to corporations and organizations in the United States, Canada, and Europe. Their work has been featured on the Today Show, CNBC, Good Day New York, and in the New York Times.
Reading Paul Donoghue and Mary Siegel’s book Are You Really Listening? was a great learning experience for me. These two experienced therapists make listening sound simple. I appreciated the wealth of knowledge and experience that the authors showed and I loved their down-to-earth examples. They convinced me that listening well to others is learning to love better. This is a book you will enjoy reading and love to keep. – Sister Kathleen Kanet. R.S.H.M, President, The Centre of International Learning.